Have you ever heard anyone described as a “walking time bomb”? That’s the person who goes through life repressing anger. He may deny his anger and act as if everything rolls off his shoulders like water off the back of a duck. But the reality is that the anger is building and building and building to the point where it is either going to be released in one violent explosion or its’ going to result in physical damage such as an ulcer, high blood pressure, or deep depression.
Anger is like water building up behind the wall of a dam. In any dam, the floodgates have to be opened occasionally to release excess water. If they are never opened, the water will build up to the point where the dam can no longer hold it back and the dam will break. In the same way, it is best to give honest and clear expression to your feelings when something happens that makes you angry. Open up those floodgates and let the excess out. Otherwise, it will build up to the point where the dam can no longer hold it back.
One men call a John, had a real problem with anger. He carried resentments toward a father who not only was an alcoholic but had abused John when he was a child and had abandoned the family when his son was no more than seven or eight years old. John had never been able to find a way to deal with his anger, and the result was that it often erupted in violence and abuse of others. He would even beat his wife from time to time and on one occasion broke her arm.As time went by and he failed to deal with the issues, he began to deteriorate, not only emotionally, but physically as well. He began smoking more and more, and suffering from lung cancer. A year after his first lung surgery, with his anger continuing, his cancer spread to his brain. His family died at the age of thirty- eight.If you see that you have a tendency to repress anger, follow the same steps as for isolation.
1. Look for specific ways in which you have recently demonstrated a tendency to repress anger.
2. Try to figure out the underlying causes for your behaviour (such as being afraid to express your true feelings when your were a child).
3. Write down some ways you could have handled the situation better and some things you will do differently in the future.
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H Vikato Zhimo
Citizen journalist