In today’s discourse, the term “toxic masculinity” has become a contentious point, often used to denigrate traditional masculine virtues. However, it is crucial to distinguish between traditional masculinity and behaviors that are detrimental to individuals and society. Mislabeling traditional male attributes as “toxic” not only misrepresents men but also undermines the valuable qualities they bring to society.
True masculinity encompasses virtues such as honor, courage, responsibility, and resilience. These qualities are not inherently harmful but instead form the bedrock of a stable and productive society. Men who exhibit these traits contribute positively to their families, communities, workplaces, and society. They stand as pillars of strength and stability, guiding those around them with integrity and purpose.
Toxic masculinity, on the other hand, may be used to define certain behaviors like aggression, dominance-seeking at the expense of others, and the suppression of emotions to the detriment of mental health. Such behaviors are not laudable but are rather seen as deviations from authentic masculinity. The danger lies in the tendency to mistake traditional male behaviors for “toxic” ones, thereby vilifying normal expressions of masculinity that are actually beneficial.
The importance of personal accountability and the fulfillment of roles within a framework of moral values cannot be overstated. In our context, it is the embodiment of Sobaliba. Men are encouraged to be protectors and providers, not oppressors. Respect for others, including women, is essential, rooted in the belief that all individuals deserve dignity and respect. This respect is not a sign of weakness but a hallmark of true strength.
Biological differences between men and women are real and should be embraced rather than erased. This perspective values the complementary nature of the two genders and acknowledges that each brings unique strengths to society. Misunderstanding these differences and labeling traditional masculinity as “toxic” can lead to a society that devalues the strengths each gender brings to the table.